After six months of fighting his battle with cancer Marcus passed away on Nov. 7. I was there along with my sister Catherine and his parents Irma and Fritz. I think Marcus was ready to go and he had already said his goodbyes to his family on Saturday, Nov. 3. Even when he was saying goodbye he was telling me that it was OK and that what ever happened it was OK. He felt that it all made sense to him now and that he saw the light. Shortly after that he went to the hospice and slipped into a coma.
It was very important to Marcus that he live his life with dignity and grace. I think he definitely accomplished that and I was always constantly amazed at how he did not complain and how he did not get angry. Marcus was always easy to be around and he always appreciated me and everyone around him. He made a science of always appreciating the little things in life. I can't quite believe that he is gone and I think it will take awhile to sink in. There are reminders all around me of him and I often hear his voice in my head when I go to to things.
I know many people are worried about upsetting me but I enjoy phone calls and emails. I feel lucky to have been with Marcus and I love talking about him. So don't worry about making me sad. I know he will be missed by everyone and I enjoy hearing stories about him. We are also going to have a memory box at his memorial service where people can put in memories so Katie can have them later on too.
Everyone is welcome at his memorial service at 1pm at Oakridge Lutheran Church (just in from Cambie on 41st Ave.
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Nicely done, Kristina. We love you, Barb Jay Zach and Suzy xoxoxo
Dear Kristina,
You, Marcus, and little Katey have been in my thoughts and prayers. I know you'll draw comfort and courage from your amazing family and community of friends, from your happy memories, and from Marcus' voice in your head and heart. I'll be there to celebrate Marcus at his memorial service. I know we won't get a chance to visit, but I will look forward to reconnecting with you and spending time with Katey in the new year, when we are out visiting Paul's family. I send all my love.
Jane
Hello Kristina,
I was so relieved to read that Catherine was able to be there with and for you. You have a wonderful support group in family and friends and I hope that helps ease your grief.
Love from Deb, Bailiff & Beamer
Hello Kristina
I'm a friend of Carter and Jackie's from Australia and I have been a lurker of your blog since the spectacular entry into the world made by your daughter and that is why I felt the need to say how truly sorry I am about Marcus.
I hope you have lots of family and friends to give you and Katelyn plenty of love and support that you really deserve right now.
Stay strong and my thoughts are with you.
Natalie Cook
Dear Kristina,
I'm so sorry to read about Marcus passing. You and Katelyn are most definitely in our thoughts and prayers. I wish I could be there to lend support in person, but know that I'm always at the end of the computer if you ever feel the need to type.
Even though I never met Marcus I could tell by his posts on the blog that he had a great sense of humour. I always enjoyed reading what he had to say. Please give Katelyn and yourself a big hug from Ims and I.
Kristina,
I was in the education program with Marcus at UBC. I have lurked on your site once in a while but hadn't visited for a long time. I am stunned by the news. Marcus was a fantastic person and I am so sorry to hear about his passing.
Grahame Quan
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