I just bought a book titled, "Help Me Live- 20 Things People With Cancer Want You To Know" by Lori Hope. I really like how each chapter is titled with one of the 20 things. Now I know that everyone is different and this is written from a women's perspective but I thought some of them were pretty good:
Ch 1- "It's okay to say or do the 'wrong' thing."
Ch 2- "I need to know you're here for me (and if you aren't, why not.)"
Ch 3- "I like to hear success stories, not horror stories."
Ch 4- "I am terrified."
Ch 7- "I need to feel hope"
Ch 11- "I want compassion, not pity; comfort, not advice."
Ch 12- "I am more than my cancer; treat me kindly, not differently."
Ch 13- "I want you to help without my asking you to."
Ch 14- "I like to be held in your thoughts or prayers."
Ch 17- "I don't know why I got cancer, and I don't want to hear your theory."
Ch 18- "I need you to understand if I don't return your call or want to see you."
Ch 20- "I don't know if I'm cured, and bringing up my health can bring me down."
I've learned a lot just reading the titles and I want everyone to know that Marcus and I were just talking about how we have been so lucky because all of our family and friends have all been so fantastic. You've all been so supportive, and so helpful. We appreciate all the cards, emails, presents, tasty casseroles, phone calls, dog walks and visits. We really feel that we are in your thoughts and that we matter to you. We couldn't ask for more. Thank you!
Kristina